“I haven’t failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Do you know how many times did Thomas Edison failed before he successfully invented the light bulb?
One thousand times. He made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts before he finally figured things out.
I’m just glad that he had a good relationship with failure and never gave up.
By strengthening your relationship with failure, you can unlock all sorts of potential in yourself never before accessible.
Because the thing about failing is that it’s like any other skill. The more that you do it, the better you become. Or in this case, better you become at dealing with it.
It’s also a matter of perspective. Is failure a bad thing? Is it something to be ashamed of?
It’s understandable to want to avoid failure. Failure can be uncomfortable, embarrassing, and just kind of suck.
Then of course, when you compare it to its counterpart, success? It’s like adding insult to injury.
That’s how it feels anyway. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Failure doesn’t have to be this terrible thing we try to avoid. We can choose to see our failures as opportunities for growth. As a signal to take a step back, reevaluate, and learn something new.
Re-frame failure and learn from it so that you can end up better because of it.
“The greatest successes come from having the freedom to fail.”
Prepare for discomfort
I think that this is one of the best things that you can do when trying to level up in this life. Comfort leads to stagnation. Discomfort leads to growth. You can’t expect to grow when your abilities aren’t being tested and honed.
Which activity is going to make you better: Playing against and dominating a bunch of beginners or competing against a bunch of professionals? Playing against the beginners might make you feel good – it will do wonders for your ego. But the way to actually learn and grow is by suffering against people that you can learn from.
Even if the pros are running you over, there’s a ton to be learned from it. Be willing to compete with and try to learn from people who are better than you. Sometimes it’s gonna hurt. Sometimes it will be embarrassing. Most of the time, you might feel kind of stupid. But it’s worth it.
Learn to embrace the discomfort.
How can you tell when you’re at your limit?
That’s all well and good, but surely we don’t want to go too far, right?
I wrote an article called How We Grow: The Goldilocks Zone where I describe that sweet spot for growth which you may find interesting.
But this question specifically regarding limit makes me think about running.
Running is such a funny activity to me. I’m not entirely sure how I would even describe my relationship with it. I love running, but only kind of. I mean, I love what it does for me. It improves my cardio, strengthens my body, and helps burn fat. And even that runner’s high everyone talks about.
But what I think is the more important aspect of running is the mental side of it.
Running teaches me how to be strong. It teaches me how to deal with discomfort, tolerate pain, and push through my perceived limits.
But the most important thing that running has shown me is that some of these ‘limits’ have about as much limiting power as a speed limit sign.
It’s just a number. It’s based on something, but it’s not real. Can you go faster than the speed limit? You sure can. Is there an increased risk of injury? Yea, probably.
If I go out tomorrow and chant, “I have no limits” while trying to run an ultra-marathon, I’ll probably pass out on the trail or die.
Limits are real, but they’re not set in stone.
Be intentional about which limits you believe
Some limits are real, but not all limits are real. Accept it for what it is. It requires some digging and testing. Sometimes you might get knocked down.
Just acknowledge that the limits that you’ve arbitrarily set or agreed to aren’t necessarily true or accurate. You want to be realistic with your limits, but being realistic and conservative are one in the same when it comes to limits and abilities.
Sometimes the way to push your limits will be to try things that you’re unsure you can do – to just go for it.
If you fail? Learn from it. If you succeed? You’re more capable than you thought.
That’s a win-win as far as I’m concerned. And it’s not a failure as long as you learn from it.
Besides, what’s the worst thing that happens, you fail? 🙂
That’s it for this one!
Is there anything that you’ve been thinking about failing at? Why haven’t you tried it yet? Are you going to try it now? I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment below.
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Happy Fathers Day!
Until next time,