Having self control and being able to manage your emotions can be like super powers. The more emotional a situation is, the more likely we are to react irrationally. There is a certain threshold to self control where once breached, we lose our ability to make rational decisions. The goal is to never let ourselves get to this point. Emotional control and anger management are skills like any other. They take consistent practice and time to build up. The benefits of not being at the whim of your emotions are game-changing. An example of an emotionally charged situation is road rage. Road rage can be very dangerous. We don’t all approach driving identically and people make mistakes, so disagreements are bound to happen. The best thing to do when confronted with road rage is to avoid the bait. People will try to make you angry, they will try to get you to retaliate, they want you to stoop to their level. Don’t let them be your puppet-master. Don’t give someone that power over you. Keep your composure and stay rational. Do your best to disengage and move on. Odds are that you will never see this person again. And on the off chance that you do, neither of you would even remember. Many people can’t handle their emotions and they don’t bother trying to become better. I believe that it’s a skill worth having. But we all must make that decision for ourselves.
Some questions for you: How much control do you have over your emotions? Have you ever experienced road rage? How did you respond? What might you have done differently in hindsight?
“Anger is like grasping a hot coal to strike another; you are the one who gets burned.” -Old Buddhist saying